Q and A , Sarah
my friend kate is a magazine editor in new york.she has worked for several parenting magazines over the years, including parents , and currently , american baby. i have served as her nurse midwife consultant for numerous articles and Q & A pieces. she’d call me up , ask me a bunch of questions and then viola in the next issue, there was i was in black and white.
i haven’t had much time for writing lately, which is too bad because i really enjoy it. its very therapeutic for me to contemplate and tap tap on my lap top. since i am time limited and haven’t had time to write much the last few weeks today's blog is going to be a Q and A, ala kate.
Q: who is sarah?
A: sarah is ruby’s biological sibling from china.
Q What??
A: we know that most adopted girls from china are second daughters, so many of our kids have bio siblings still in china. some have siblings also adopted internationally. a few are lucky enough to connect and figure it out. we are one of those few.
Q: how did you find out?
A-long story, but the girls are from the same orphanage, share a birthday, and looked very much alike as babies. after making contact with the ross adams family and sharing a lot of photos as well as talking about the girls personalities, we decided to do dna testing.
Q: so are they twins?
A-its possible they could be twins but we think they are half siblings who share a birthfather. the dna testing gives them a 93% chance of being half siblings and a 26 % chance of being full siblings-which in their case would make them twins.
Q: wow.
A: yep.
we traveled to new jersey in june 2005 to meet them. at age 3 the girls had some eerie similarities- voice, laugh, smile, eyebrows, dimpled cheeks and many expressions. sarah and her mom came to visit us last week and the similarities at age 5 are not as striking. they look very different these days, with only a fleeting glimpse of the other now and then. sometimes they look nothing alike and sometimes there is something that you can't quite put your finger on.
there is further dna testing we could do to decide the twin question. mitochondrial dna is passed only via the mother and mutates very slowly . if they were positive for mtdna, they are twins. neither family feels compelled to do mtdna now. technology will only get better. so if and when the girls want to know, we will do mtnda. for now we are forging the bonds of an interesting relationship as we go.
the girls had a great time together. we mom’s had fun too.
i haven’t had much time for writing lately, which is too bad because i really enjoy it. its very therapeutic for me to contemplate and tap tap on my lap top. since i am time limited and haven’t had time to write much the last few weeks today's blog is going to be a Q and A, ala kate.
Q: who is sarah?
A: sarah is ruby’s biological sibling from china.
Q What??
A: we know that most adopted girls from china are second daughters, so many of our kids have bio siblings still in china. some have siblings also adopted internationally. a few are lucky enough to connect and figure it out. we are one of those few.
Q: how did you find out?
A-long story, but the girls are from the same orphanage, share a birthday, and looked very much alike as babies. after making contact with the ross adams family and sharing a lot of photos as well as talking about the girls personalities, we decided to do dna testing.
Q: so are they twins?
A-its possible they could be twins but we think they are half siblings who share a birthfather. the dna testing gives them a 93% chance of being half siblings and a 26 % chance of being full siblings-which in their case would make them twins.
Q: wow.
A: yep.
we traveled to new jersey in june 2005 to meet them. at age 3 the girls had some eerie similarities- voice, laugh, smile, eyebrows, dimpled cheeks and many expressions. sarah and her mom came to visit us last week and the similarities at age 5 are not as striking. they look very different these days, with only a fleeting glimpse of the other now and then. sometimes they look nothing alike and sometimes there is something that you can't quite put your finger on.
there is further dna testing we could do to decide the twin question. mitochondrial dna is passed only via the mother and mutates very slowly . if they were positive for mtdna, they are twins. neither family feels compelled to do mtdna now. technology will only get better. so if and when the girls want to know, we will do mtnda. for now we are forging the bonds of an interesting relationship as we go.
the girls had a great time together. we mom’s had fun too.
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